Isn’t that always the way? You really, really, really want to find love, but it eludes you. You’ll see it everywhere but in your own life. Friends pair up while you go on disappointing date after disappointing date, never finding The One.
Letting go of expectation is the key. It sounds contrary, but turns it’s a completely unromantic, scientific way to attract your heart’s desire quicker. In his book Real Magic, Dean Radin, PhD, calls it “effortless striving.” It’s a state of passionately, obsessively desiring something while at the same time remaining unconcerned about when or how it’s going to come to you. I won’t get into the physics of it (and, yes, believe it or not, physics do apply here), but your passion and emotion around the issue give your desire weight that activates a gravitational pull that causes the answer to that desire to come to you. But anxiety around who, or how, or when acts like deflector shields that stand in the way, blocking your desire from coming to you.
It’s the reason why, when your desire is weighted down with a little healthy fantasizing and minimal obsessing but then you set aside worries and anxieties around it, you’re most likely to run into that desire when and where you least expect it.
Read an excerpt from Cedar Ridge by checking out the Book Bubble here.
